I have thought exactly that Phil! There are many ways to learn, and maybe somewhere along the way this idea, this concept, had to be explored. But, enough already! I see it every where I look, this alternative way of learning any damn thing at all. I see it as I work with my horse. She responds so well to love and encouragement. It's like watching a flower bloom, to see the look in her eyes when I go to greet her in the morning, and feel the growing bond of trust between us. I see it as I carefully choose my responses to things my grandchildren do. I think back on my own life, and how my fundamentalist parental figures assumed that children needed some kind of physical punishment from time to time, to keep them in line, and learn respect. In my view, love and respect are not on opposite sides.
I started reading a book by Jim Mars about population control. It's quite disturbing in every way. At the top of the psychotic, anti-life elite tree, is indeed this authoritarian, father knows best concept, and definitely has the mentality of a War Lord. Only the tough survive, and vulnerability is a weakness that must be extinguished. And now here we are, a world full of generational trauma victims, being exploited by their conquerors. And this war started probably before our human story on earth even began. It's never ended. It's like it just keeps looping around on itself, with this live, die, repeat cycle.
But I also realize, I have both the victim and the victimizer in my psyche, and that's where the real work begins. Because, I am certain that until I fully integrate both sides, by a process of brutal self honesty, it will continue to reach out and bite me in the butt. That seems to be the only solution for me lately. Just don't give my power over to my own inner demons, cause they are guaranteed to exploit my weaknesses at every opportunity. That's what they do. I don't hate them for it. For me, it all about self mastery. Then, hopefully, I reap the reward of my hard work by not being intimidated, subtly manipulated, and continually deceived by my own false beliefs.
In a way, I guess you could that I am learning to be that loving parental figure I never had, by changing those inner, constantly running programs, and rewriting them without the use of trauma. I am rewriting them with the idea that we are each of us, if we chose to engage in this process of becoming, the embodiment of a totally different and much more integrative form of love. It starts, for me anyway, with loving myself, even as I see the parts that don't look so good on closer examination.
Didn't mean to go off on a tangent. But sometimes Phil, you really touch on something quite profound, and quite deep. Thank you.
I’m not myself today, maybe I’m you