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The New Deception: the “Sexy, Spiritual, Successful, Goddess”

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The New Deception: the “Sexy, Spiritual, Successful, Goddess”

Postby Spiritwind » Sun Feb 10, 2019 3:25 pm

The New Deception: the “Sexy, Spiritual, Successful, Goddess”

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These days women are not only haunted by the usual Matrix images in the media telling them what to look like, what to eat, and how to live (lifestyle porn) but even in the spiritual community women are now being programmed through the whole “spiritual goddess” and “vegan yogi” culture-trends to be another thing: sexy, successful, perfect and of course, ultra-spiritual, demi-gods who are “manifestors of abundance” (who can teach you how to be like them!) along with a whole other bunch of New Age catchphrases that present a new certain stereotype of how the “spiritual woman” should look like, act like, and be like.

Every course, teacher, article, retreat who promises others how to be a “conscious man” or “conscious woman” or tells others how to be the “divine feminine” or “divine masculine” and then lists a certain set of attributes for others to emulate in order to embody that ideal is basically a manipulation strategy, spiritualizing “the game” wherein the sexes are pitted against one another by trying to be an ‘ideal’ of what they feel the other wants in order to gain more love/attention/affection from them.

There seems to be an idea amongst these communities that to be a goddess is to present yourself in a flowing dress, modestly to overtly sexualizing yourself, in order to show the world how you have embodied the “divine feminine”.  Everywhere we are now bombarded with images of this “sexy spiritual woman” and told that this an aspect of “empowered” marketing. But the trap of using the sexualized female image to sell a product is nothing new, it is a classic media ploy wherein quite simply “sex sells”.

Peruse Instagram these days and you will see many women posting excessive selfies with quotes from enlightened masters as a caption, showing how beautiful and also how spiritual they are, with their perfect yoga body, and somehow always on vacation or in some minimalist home. This pattern I vaguely bought into as well. Yet as time went on, even if I posted a selfie that got a thousand likes, I could see that the mere act of doing so was still feeding into my need to be ‘validated’ for an appearance. I was also selling myself short by using my image more than I was using my gifts, and as time went on something felt very “off” to me in the energy I would get from the excessive predatorial and “thirsty” comments from men. Many of the people who were drawn to my image didn’t seem to care much about what I said… which I couldn’t complain about either, because I was feeding on the attention with my own narcissism.

Let’s also look at this image of the Goddess and how we’ve begun to distort this inner essence by attributing it to certain sets of external imagery. I feel that once we travel along far enough in our journey, we begin to discover that true beauty is in fact, mostly internal. There are older women who are strong in themselves and have been through an immense amount of internal transformation and simply Radiate; grey hair, wrinkles, and all. There are also younger women who have not done any inner work and still mainly depend on their beauty in the world and use it as an excuse to be vain, cruel, and self-centered. The most powerful archetypes of “goddesses” I have met have been elder women; women who can demonstrate strength, compassion, wisdom, love, sensitivity, receptiveness, and most importantly – self-respect with a simple look in their eyes. I believe the true ‘divine feminine’ has little to nothing to do with an image but has to do with an ability to carry sensitivity, strength, and receptivity into the body so much so that the mere presence of women like this can heal.

“The dark feminine”, which I have also witnessed in myself, had a lot to do with deluding oneself and manipulating others, especially through using sexuality to do so. When we use sexual manipulation to get others “attention”, when we use our image to lure others in so that people will be distracted by aesthetics instead of the inner aspects of ourselves, when we attempt to hypnotize by this image so that others treat us with a certain way, we are using power of the lower vital urges to draw people in. Our lower self, insecure and never satisfied, continuously feeds off the energy that this attention gets us. We use this cheap form of power and perpetuate the collective abuse of reptilian-like hypersexualization that is plastered all over mainstream advertising. And in ‘spirituality’, many women now sell their own image in this same way as these Matrix programs and dress it up as something “enlightened”. But when we objectify the female image by looking at it as something we can sexualize and sell, we perpetuate this toxic pattern by using our own bodies against our soul.

I have found one of the biggest barriers in me being able to be authentically me is caring about being ‘popular’ and about what others think, and believing I had some kind of ‘image’ to maintain. In 2015, over the course of a year my Instagram blew up to over 30k followers, I also signed a contract with a publisher (one of my so-called ‘dreams’ at the time) and during those couple years that followed I saw myself buying into the image that I was projecting. I felt I had to maintain this “spiritual” “mystical” image because that’s the image that people were projecting upon me. I wanted to be seen as something otherworldly, something that was not my messy, human, normal and quite frankly, kind of boring self.

Over the course of a couple of years, I became an avatar of my own destruction, a creation based on a fantasy I had on what the spiritual journey looked like and of what others wanted it to look like too. I began catering what I shared with what people seemed to like – believing that the more popular I got, the better I was doing, the more opportunities it would make for my “career” in the long term. It became less about my own process but how I could Monetize Spirituality. I even deluded myself into believing that through this curated image I was actually helping people.

Looking back now, I see how many things I posted were drenched in my own inauthenticity of wanting to be more popular, to be seen as sexual, spiritual, and awake. This felt even more wrong because a lot of people went along with it, but my true self knew and felt how I was lying to myself. I saw people buying into the manipulated image that I created and I was caught in another Matrix trapping of thinking I had to be this thin, perfect, vegan yogi, to present this certain image to the world, and at the end of the day no matter how popular I got – I still never felt good enough.

When I faced my own narcissistic wounding, I went through an intense disillusionment process. I had to give up everything I was “trying” to be to become who I was again. In doing this, I also had to give up my ambition to turn any part of my spiritual path into a “career”. I made a deeper commitment to my journey – where I would put seeking truth and the process of my own awakening above EVERYTHING else in my life; especially these petty concerns of being popular, being liked, or being “successful”; otherwise, I was about to sacrifice all the wisdom I gained and turn it around into another form of self-deception.

Looking back now, I see how many things I posted were drenched in my own inauthenticity of wanting to be more popular, to be seen as sexual, spiritual, and awake. This felt even more wrong because a lot of people went along with it, but my true self knew and felt how I was lying to myself. I saw people buying into the manipulated image that I created and I was caught in another Matrix trapping of thinking I had to be this thin, perfect, vegan yogi, to present this certain image to the world, and at the end of the day no matter how popular I got – I still never felt good enough.

When I faced my own narcissistic wounding, I went through an intense disillusionment process. I had to give up everything I was “trying” to be to become who I was again. In doing this, I also had to give up my ambition to turn any part of my spiritual path into a “career”. I made a deeper commitment to my journey – where I would put seeking truth and the process of my own awakening above EVERYTHING else in my life; especially these petty concerns of being popular, being liked, or being “successful”; otherwise, I was about to sacrifice all the wisdom I gained and turn it around into another form of self-deception.

These Divine forces have much better plans for our soul than any diversion our small self tries to architect, and whatever falsities the ego tries to build the higher self will take no mercy is demolishing.

We live in a “selfie” generation where narcissism and propping up our self-image is the norm, however, this does not mean that this trend should be continued or bought into for the sake of gaining more followers, clients, etc. When we are in alignment with our true purpose, invisible forces will assist in having the right people find us – we will not have to use seduction or deception to draw them in.

Using female sexuality to sell a product is one of the number one matrix marketing tools and if the content is good then it won’t be necessary. As women, if we feel the need to seduce someone in to buy our services we are selling our souls to the system that treats our body as objects and commodities. This is very important. Our seeing the feminine as a commodity to be used, bought, sold, is the main driving attitude towards the mindless destruction of the resources of the Earth itself. If you want to sell high-quality organic food do you need a beautiful woman wearing a bikini holding it in order to sell it? If our gifts are valuable we will not need to “market” ourselves in a way which objectifies the body at a cost of the soul. This is not “body shaming” anyone, but I see too many women using their images to seduce people in order to buy their services.

Conversely, we also cannot be who we truly are if we are thinking we must be or act a certain way, and hold ourselves up to impossible standards that this new Spiritual Beauty Myth tries to create. Only when we allow ourselves to be the changeable, unknowable, living and dying yet infinite Being, with our own unique flavour as we live our purpose do we become more true embodiments of the Divine, in it’s masculine and feminine form, merging and dancing together as ONE.

We must be brave enough to show up as our TRUE SELVES and this means however that shows up, in every form it can possibly take. You are enough. In order to embody the authenticity of this true self, we must dissolve old programs where we expect ourselves to be a certain way, look a certain way, act a certain way, take off every mask, dissolve the old conditioning that breaks our spirit, so that we can allow the essence of our unique imprint to arise as it is in every moment. You are never more sexy, spiritual, and successful, than when you allow yourself to be the person that you truly are.
May the song from within come forth, Expressing itself as it may
With nary a thought or worry, For how else to spend the day
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Re: The New Deception: the “Sexy, Spiritual, Successful, Goddess”

Postby maggie » Sun Feb 10, 2019 5:28 pm

Spiritwind, I notice so many times that we see the same articles and issues.

I want to share my inner response to what Laura said. First off, she is speaking from having learned that the "oooh lala, I'm so pretty..." stance has a downside. Also, she has now developed what looks like a deep partnership with her divine man. I read Bernhard Guenther's writing and he is prolific on the subjects he covers. There seems a hard edge to him (like a knife) cutting away at what he thinks is wrong with "us" and also feels like a big index finger wagging. (That is just my feeling).

IMO I was very young once and quite pretty. I was very lucky because I had the chance to explore my sexy girl power allied to my interests at the time in consciousness expansion and IDEALS of metaphysics. I was attractive to a select group I liked of soul full sensitive men who liked also a pretty girl. It was fun to be admired as a "goddessy" muse AND playmate of the "soul".

(though no emphasis at that time on verbiage as that developed over time into a set of "new age": memes. Then there was no "new age" as we were creating a late 20th century version of what would look like that later...and its NOT new. ALL of it is the age old dance of polarities, trying to put words and social expression onto what is TRUE....that we have divine polarity and we have society that uses IDEALS trivialized into more's and superficial expressions which MOLD the attraction between genitals towards a procreative result)

There are variations on the theme of what is beautiful and attractive. In the bird kingdom the males are flashy. I am not sure I exactly understand why women are selected by males for their flash but it is NOT the mousey mouse who gets her man. Maybe I am wrong here about this 3D issue but my experience is that allure IS involved in "social intercourse" and the YOUTH are in the realm of intercourse for quite practical reasons.

The meme of the beautiful librarian (who when she takes off her glasses is a sexy one) is one variation of "intellectual/elevated/ spiritual" CLOTHING. I found out in the 70's that playing for attraction had its downside. One of the WORST examples is that I played with a man's heart to suit my agenda that was not loving. I think he was a great soul and I was using him in a bit of a bid to make another person jealous. Then coincidentally he died of an insulin overdose two days after I was really mean to him. I won't go into all the details but I physically felt his dying. YES, I had invited in a soul with wiley craft and then been cruel. The responsibility of having been adjacent to his death with such a cruel capacity was heart breaking for me. Thus I changed and stopped the games. I really grokked the problem of manipulating emotionally.

SO, my main point is that People must experience the ramifications of the GAME to learn the lessons. I am glad for Laura that she no longer needs the game of sexy, spiritual, successful and came out on another side of life. BUT please all these well meaning "cluck cluck poo poo" chidders are missing the point. OURS is IMO not to tell others what they must stop doing (including playing that game she no longer enjoys) but MAYBE state the downsides as lived by oneself and be playful about how all our matrix games are leading us to KNOW in our BONES that we are not the versions of reality we choose to project on a screen and yet can still be BOTH AND EVERY aspect, not tied down to those marketed ones but any beautiful expression we choose.

IT is edge of the chodding that does not set well. She uses lots of photographs too that are pretty titilating and may get some people stirred up. MY point is she is just one little step off the beaten path having to critique. I wish her deep love and satisfaction and the same to all of us. We may not choose to dress in showy flows of decoration or we might? We cannot escape the truth that we are all on a perambulation around a matrix that we chose to create to experience lots of various stuff....

Thanks for letting me ramble on.


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