In "real life", these provocations come when without previous discussion, a significant hit is thrown down. Then the person refuses to take on that what was "revealed" is needing discussion. The worst example is when in a "fight" between loved ones, a "hit" is thrown to completely shut down the ability to continue. Then the person "leaves" the scene either physically or psychically.
This leaves a hang up IMO where nothing may progress.
I have been kind of obsessed with what I call a culture of "Narcissists R US" and I have coined that phrase as it for me descibes the almost accepted way that narcissm has shaped the "rules" that are accepted so we "think" it is actually a strategy worth doing to get a hit in and run.
I just saw a movie "My King" that was a story of "love" and showed how there was a complete over powering of a woman by a man who to me had the character well portrayed of narcissism. Despite his brutality (and it is SO brutal to destroy trust and the basic comfort of support between people), she continues to "love" him. We WANT to love. WE desire closeness. These terrible people (terrorists) want us to want them. They enjoy their power as hit us and then run away. They don't stay GONE though. They resurface in their own timing to have another day with us. Our capacity to FEEL stung by them is delicious.
Is this love? We "put up" with the people who hurt us because they seem valuable. So we will let them come and let them throw these barbaric communications. We retain the chronic hits that build into scar tissue separating us from our own empathy. Narcissism as culture takes down one more gentle being? Over time I am sure it will.
This is so poisonous IMO.
I say CALL this out. Confront this sick way of "counting coup".
Instead?
Off Topic
From here: http://consciouslifenews.com/7-tactics- ... s/1170045/
"Count Coup on Thy Self, Count Coup on Thy Neighbor:
“To be human is necessarily to be a vulnerable risk-taker; to be a courageous human is to be good at it.” –Jonathan Lear
“Counting coup” is a metaphor for a wake-up call, for shocking ourselves and our fellow man into wakefulness. It can be done either through the written word, street art, or through a progressive lifestyle that is in-your-face sustainable. We’re counting coup on that which is unhealthy within us. When we count coup on inertia, sloth, narcissism and extremism, we do it so that vitality, courageous action and diversity can shine through; so that we can, like Thoreau said, “Live deliberately.”
Counting coup on ourselves begins with a cringe, followed by a howl, followed by the continuation of the human leitmotif. We will kick and we will scream, we will sojourn and we will dream, we will hunger and we will ache, we will vacillate and we will vindicate, but we will be alive, clawing our way ever closer to a more self-actualized state; a state where we even learn how to count coup on enlightenment itself.
Tonight, let’s creep up close to the gods talking in their sleep, count coup, and leave with their secrets in our satchel."
"Count Coup on Thy Self, Count Coup on Thy Neighbor:
“To be human is necessarily to be a vulnerable risk-taker; to be a courageous human is to be good at it.” –Jonathan Lear
“Counting coup” is a metaphor for a wake-up call, for shocking ourselves and our fellow man into wakefulness. It can be done either through the written word, street art, or through a progressive lifestyle that is in-your-face sustainable. We’re counting coup on that which is unhealthy within us. When we count coup on inertia, sloth, narcissism and extremism, we do it so that vitality, courageous action and diversity can shine through; so that we can, like Thoreau said, “Live deliberately.”
Counting coup on ourselves begins with a cringe, followed by a howl, followed by the continuation of the human leitmotif. We will kick and we will scream, we will sojourn and we will dream, we will hunger and we will ache, we will vacillate and we will vindicate, but we will be alive, clawing our way ever closer to a more self-actualized state; a state where we even learn how to count coup on enlightenment itself.
Tonight, let’s creep up close to the gods talking in their sleep, count coup, and leave with their secrets in our satchel."
Words lie on the surface of ENERGY geared to destroy inner faith, inter faith....and I could go on but you may know what I mean...AND you may have seen these used even here, even recently? We ALL need to stand up IMO and refuse to use this weapon or see its use and let it slide....on forums AND in our personal life where it is tricky. Those we know in the strangle holds of full blown narcissistic relationships may need special care.